We all want to get married, some of us don’t obviously, and I was one of those. I might still be a person who is not thinking about marriage, yet.
Is it what usually women want? marriage? do they reach a certain age and start highly considering getting married. Where I live, in my society, if you’re 30 and unmarried, then there’s probably a huge problem and you need to fix this situation. If you’re a guy, you can wait till you’re 40 and then something will be wrong with you.
Not only women want to get married, also men. Is that how we were raised? is that how the world works? that we all end up getting married, wanting to get married, or accepting the fact that we need to get married. Who invented marriage anyway? imagine a world with no “marriage”, not a term or the whole idea of marriage… I’m not talking about a wedding, because you don’t really have to have a wedding in order to have a marriage, and vice versa. I’m referring to the idea of finding one person to “share the rest of your life with” legally, with a marriage contract. It’s actually a smart way, I once discussed it with someone and we agreed that marriage is for those who are thinking about / afraid of/ concerned with divorce. Surely, if you’re living together and you might want to have babies, consider getting married for the sake of the future and your rights as a partner and ex-partner. It all becomes business.
Now let me start with the point I’m creating this post for. Marriage, why do we all want it? or need it? — There are men who want to get married as well, even though having children isn’t on their list, they simply want to get married and be in a committed relationship. Why is that? Are we trained to think that marriage is one of those final steps or high steps of a relationship? or is it the way we were designed as humans, to be entirely committed? Sometimes I think it is our nature to find real attachment. We like this official attachment, we want it and we need it. Official attachment defines us. When we are committed to a job, we’re attached to it, and that defines who we are. “I’m a lawyer”, “I’m a Doctor” “I’m an actor” “I’m a teacher” etc. The same goes with marriage, it’s like a job that defines who we are. “I’m married” sounds better and more mature than “I’m single”.
A lot of people wonder why I am single. My mother and grandmother wonder when will I get married and have children, but I’m too busy dealing with “now” so I don’t really want to talk about my mother’s wishes.
I have wrote before on how difficult it is to find a boyfriend and have stated the reasons. post here. Whenever I find myself attracted to someone wanting to be with someone they simply do not accept me for who I am, and want me to change. And I can’t really change who am I, can I? And if I can, I don’t want to? why would I want to be someone I am not.
In my dating life, there are two options, actually, three: 1- change my personality or looks or lifestyle. 2- be alone or lonely. 3- be with someone I don’t even like.
Am I shallow? or proud to choose to be alone? or lonely, you can call that whatever you like.
Women of this world. Rise, and fight, not only today, but everyday. Everyday is your day, don’t wait for a women’s day to be a woman and fight for your rights and freedom. Fight everyday, you own the world, the world is nothing without you.
Women of this world. Rise, and live, you have a mission in this world, the world is yours, and only yours. You’re the creators of living. You bring humanity into life. You deliver life and create love. Without you, the world is hollow.
Women of this world. Celebrate your femininity everyday. You’re not men, you’re women, be proud.
8th of March is just a date, you don’t have to remember it, it won’t change anything, you have to change everything.
Rise and live.
We girls go through hard times getting to have a good relationship, and breakups aren’t as easy as they might appear to be. Sometimes we’re hurt and other times we don’t know what to do with our relationships, and we always need someone to talk to.
We can’t always talk to family and it’s too expensive to get a therapy, so friends are all we’ve got. When we need to talk about: sex, broken heart, relationships, men in general, love and many more, we need our girls, our best friends who can understand us.
“You don’t have to hide it, you don’t have to be ashamed to say he hurt you. I’m your girl, you’re my girl, we all girls, don’t you know that we love you.” Girls shouldn’t be ashamed to talk to their friends, we all should understand that we all go through the same circumstances, at least most of us.
I like being there for my friends, but I surely find it difficult to talk to some of my friends, for they don’t understand, or they’re too judgmental. Sometimes I turn to male friends, but seriously? male friends don’t really understand. As for girlfriends, some don’t understand, and others are too judgmental. There are few who understand us, and still support us.