“When the working day is done. Girls, they wanna have fun.” one of the songs I grew up loving, and singing, in every chance, and sometimes even when the working day is done, I just want to have fun.
But that’s the thing about fun. What is fun anyway? Define fun. That shouldn’t be difficult. Moments we enjoy. And yet, I feel like I have no idea what this term includes. For some people it means partying and living the moment.
You go out with people your age and you see them talking about fun stuff, and you watch the doing fun stuff: going to parties to dance, drink, even getting drunk, smoking, both tobacco and weed. And you stand there, looking at yourself and thinking “What’s the matter with me?”
And there I realized, or I keep thinking to myself, I don’t like “having fun”. I mean, sure, I like going out for drinks, and I like dancing from time to time. But I don’t define that as the only way to have fun. I don’t like clubs. I hate loud music and hate getting drunk.
And even when it comes to sex and hook ups, I don’t do that. Yes, lots of people think that I like that, and I do that from time to time, but honestly, I don’t. It’s not me.
And even while trying everything those kids do nowadays to have fun, I find myself not having fun in any of those activities. I would rather have a glass of wine over shots. I would rather have a romantic night out instead of hook-ups. I would rather go to a nice jazz concert than clubbing. And I have always been this way. And I don’t believe it has anything to do with my age. People my age do things differently.
Why do I have to be drunk to enjoy every single moment and be myself? Why do I have to hook up with strangers to have fun? Why do I have to smoke weed to feel good. Can’t I just feel good and relaxed over a cup of coffee and some relaxing music?
I apologize for rambling on and on. But I really want to hear from people my age, in their 20s about their fun kind of life? and for those who do clubbing, please enlighten me about why is it so much fun? alcohol and weed? why are they good?
Don’t tell me to try, because I’ve tried everything… several times, and I feel like I wasted my time with them.
Maybe, I’m just asking for the real things. The real fun. Real happiness and joy.