I’m back to talk about cheating.
We all cheat. We cheat during exams, we cheat during playing video games (at least I did when I was a kid), but do we all cheat when it comes to relationships?
We all lie. We lie to our parents, teachers, bosses, and even our friends and partners. We lie about our weight, our cosmetics, hair color, and we even lie about our sex habits.
But when it comes to cheating on our partners, why is it a deal breaker?
I’ve never been in a real relationship to cheat on my partner. I’ve never truly had someone to cheat on. And if I do, and I turn even close to cheating I’d be very much ashamed to myself.
I’ve known many men who cheat, and from the impression they give, they don’t feel ashamed at all. They consider cheating as a “white lie”, like a natural thing they’d do because they have no option, or because that’s how they define themselves. When they admit that they’re cheating, they don’t show any guilt or any shame. They simply make it appear like it’s a habit that most men do.
I’ve heard of many women who cheat, but I’ve never met one. I know that men are driven by testosterone that makes it impossible for them to avoid thinking about sex with a certain person they see or meet. Many men in committed relationships would still go crazy over restraining themselves from cheating.
And many other men who lack no sense of manhood, are exposed to all temptations and would still not cheat, they restrain themselves and remain committed to their spouses. No natter what happens, they know cheating is immoral. They know that they would never forgive themselves if they cheat, and they mostly know that if they cheat they’ll regret it because it means nothing, it added nothing to their manly-hood and it would be just a mistake that means nothing to even think about.
Other men would never ever resist temptation. They yield to it like a goddess to be worshiped. “It’s me.” they say, “it’s who I am.” As if it’s something they were born with. They can say they love their partner, and they would never break up with them. Some of them fear that break up, but would never ever stop that nasty habit of cheating. They’re not designed to be faithful.And when they confess to anyone that they cheat, they would never make it as a big deal. “So, I was cheating on my wife and she left me.” translates to “So yeah what if I was cheating on wife? why does she have to leave me? What did I do wrong?”
I try to be open minded about sex, but when it comes to cheating, I would never forgive the guy for cheating on me. I would never accept, forgive and forget these kind of lies. I had a similar situation, though I was never in a serious relationship, but I can feel how painful it is to be cheated upon. To give all of your trust to someone, and that person simply takes all of your trust and spend it on cheap sex/love. That simply breaks your heart.
And where can someone hide when cheating? If I ever cheat, I would never be able to show my face to the person I hurt.